Singleness

Singleness.  To society, singleness can feel like a personal issue or problem.  At times, it feels like something we should hide.  People fill conversations with questions like “are you seeing anyone?” or “do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?” Television and media portray married life as the ultimate goal, with “reality” shows like the Bachelor focusing on finding that one significant other to be happy. To find love. To "fix" the problem of singleness.

If we consume ourselves with finding that special someone then our energy is always focused on the future.  Worrying about your future spouse is saying you do not trust God. Isaiah 34:16 says, “search and read the scroll of the Lord: Not one of them will be missing, none will be lacking its mate, because He has ordered it by my mouth, and He will gather them by His Spirit.”  The God who created the universe and crafter me and you intricately with all the fine details that comprise who we are also crafted someone who is woven and chosen and compliments who we are in Christ perfectly.  God’s desire is for His name to be known and honored.  Because of this, I know God designs people for marriage to be a dynamic team working together for His glory.  Why would you want to settle for anything less than His best? 

Singleness is a gift.  It is a humble honor.  God desires to have just your attention right now. He has plans for you that can only be attained or achieved because you are single.  He wants to satisfy every “empty” space that the world says a significant other should.  God is the only one who can fills all those spaces.  And the only one that will never leave.  Isaiah 54:9-10 says, “For this is like the days of Noah to Me: when I swore that the waters of Noah would never flood the earth again, so I have sworn that I will not be angry with you or rebuke you. ‘Though the mountains move and the hills shake, My love will not be removed from you and My covenant of peace will not be shaken,’ says your compassionate Lord.”

See singleness as a blessing.  Proclaim your singleness as you should any other stage in your life: by loving the Lord with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind and all your strength (Mark 12:30) Fill conversations with questions like, "what has the Lord been teaching you lately?" and "what have you learned about this season of your life?" Understand that you don't need another person to find love.  You have all the love you could ever need from a Heavenly Father who desires and has planned, the very best for you.

Take this time to dive into yourself and grow in the Lord.  Give God your full attention and see all the marvelous things He has to teach you.  It is okay to have the desire to marry, but don’t let it consume you.  In Psalms 37:4, it says if you are seeking the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart.  Take your trust in Him a step further and let the desire go.  Give it to Him and watch Him bless you for it.  If Isaiah 34:16 says it will be seen to completion, why disrespect the Lord by doubting His plan?  In doing so, you are missing out on the richness in the life He has set before you.  The life that, without Him, would not be life.